You can have a gender preference and still be bisexual. You are still 100% bi. You are valid.

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sandawich asked: [to anon wondering about being ace] You don't have to want to have sex with someone to notice if they are generally good looking. Some features tend to particularly pleasing to the eyes, (part psychology, part social standards of beauty) and can be recognized by a person, regardless of orientation. Which is why a lesbian can say a man looks attractive, but not BE attracted. (there was a post once that said "I'm gay, not blind.") [That may be ableist though]

Yes, that is casually ableist, but thank you for the response.


avrel-the-teller asked: Thinking someone is good-looking is typically referred to as aesthetic attraction. That doesn't make you any less asexual. You can find someone attractive and not feel the desire to have sex. Alternately, if you do sometimes feel the desire to have sex, you could be demisexual or gray asexual.


Anonymous asked: If I think people are hot/attractive can I still be asexual? Because I find people attractive I just don't want to have sex with them. Thank you so much!

Yes, I believe so! I’m not sure if there’s a particular subset of asexuality/a name for that though. Followers?


Anonymous asked: do you know if vinny of vinesauce says/does problematic stuff/said/did problematic stuff in the past? I watched some of his corrupted games walkthroughs and I found them hilarious and he never made any problematic jokes in these videos. But before I start watching his other videos, I just want to be sure. Btw, I really love your blog and I'll always love it. Please don't give up on it anytime soon!<3

No idea who that is, sorry. But posting for others to comment! And thank you, I don’t intend to give up. <3


Anonymous asked: I really wish the anon talking about curing autism would watch the video interview of the scientists working on this study. They never,ever, ever say cure. They say "treatment". Treatment is NOT always cure. People who have diabetes recieve treatment for their disease forever. People with OCD, like myself, recieve treatment, but I am not cured.

One year my colleagues David and Carole were preparing a skit on abuse for a conference, and they decided to perform a rehearsal for their abuser group. Afterward, the group members rapid-fired their suggestions for improving the skit, directing them mostly at David: “No, no, you don’t make excuses for why you’re home late, that puts you on the defensive, you’ve got to turn it around on her, tell her you know she’s cheating on you….. You’re staying too far away from her, David. Take a couple of steps toward her, so she’ll know that you mean business…. You’re letting her say too much. You’ve got to cut her off and stick to your points.” The counselors were struck by how aware the clients were of the kinds of tactics they use, and why they use them: In the excitement of giving feedback on the skit, the men let down their facade as “out-of-control abuser who doesn’t realize what he’s doing.

“Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft (via bajo-el-mar)

I really need to read this, Jesus.

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Anonymous asked: Not the same article. The one I was referring to is called "Children With Autism Have Extra Synapses In Their Brains". In science you can't just say something like this isn't possible, I truly believe autism may become a thing of the past, at least for those who voluntarily want not to have it (and those people DO exist). My sister is constantly terrified and miserable. I don't believe her entire identity relies on that aspect. She would be better off without it.

Article here. Treating some symptoms of autism (which they’re still a long way from, and I’m still not convinced given that they only studied 24 brains, especially given they were the brains of children and not adults so it’s unclear if this ‘pruning’ process is delayed or whether it doesn’t occur at all, and mice are not the same as humans) isn’t the same as ‘curing’ it.

I also really dislike people who say that they want to cure or eradicate autism.


Anonymous asked: The IFLS article that other anon is talking about made no mention of "curing" autism. It actually talked about a recent discovery that a majority of autistic peole actually have more synapses than most. (You usually lose a lot through "pruning" as you grow. They do not.) Mostly, it was talking about a way to help treat or, rather, reduce some of the symptoms people have associated with autism. They also stated that human trials are a LOOOONG way off, and again, it is not a cure.


Anonymous asked: So, if the IFLS (I Fucking Love Science) article is true, which you could find by searching I'm sure, there has been some strides in the area of understanding what causes autism and how it could be reversed or prevented. I won't try explaining, but I encourage you to read up on it. "An encouraging start" it said, if nothing else. This gives me hope, as someone with an autistic sister, that in the not-too-distant future more severe forms of autism will be phased out completely.

I found an article talking about them finding genes that may account for autism in some cases, but nothing about a potential ‘cure’. Finding a cause is not the same as a ‘cure’. I’m pretty sure that you’re not going to find a ‘cure’ for autism. A more realistic scenario is that people are going to be able to test foetuses for autism and then may abort based on that, which is a form of eugenics.

Also, autism is a part of someone. By saying that you want to ‘phase out’ autism, you are saying that you wish that people my my brother & my uncle (and your sister) do not exist. Autism is a part of them. Accept that rather than envisioning a world where neurodivergent people do not exist. You are literally saying that you want autistic people to not exist, that is really awful. I am not autistic, so any autistic people should feel free to weigh in.