I am especially sensitive to, and annoyed by, people who pride themselves on “just telling it like it is”. Sometimes these people possess a rare gift of insight and kindness, but more often, they’re being cruel and disguising it as some sort of lame superpower. Giving someone the hard truth doesn’t make you more insightful, it makes you the asshole who saw the same thing everyone else saw and decided it might make you feel better to say it out loud.

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Usually they’re the people who are just reinforcing the status quo, bigoted bullshit and acting like it’s some revolutionary opinion.

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The suspense is killing me

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The suspense is killing me

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Anonymous asked: I AU my OCs all the time. Like I have a certain 'sort of, kinda lesbian' couple. And I can't figure out what world I like them best in so I keep putting them in EVERY thing. It's like, do I want awkward cafe flirting or do I want bonding over slaying werebears and patching up wounds. I'm sorry. I think about my OCs a lot.

omg i know right? i’m a roleplayer so i re-use my OCs a lot for different scenarios. my friend and i don’t really even roleplay any more we just sit there and AU all the characters we’ve ever played together with ‘what if’ scenarios.

i AU my own characters all the time i wonder if real writers do that. i wonder if jk rowling is like ‘what would harry do in the hunger games’ or if suzanne collins is like ‘what house would katniss be sorted into’.

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Anonymous asked: Sorry for the incest thing >.<. I was just saying it in my opinion. Sorry if I offended you or anything. I retread that ask from that other anon and while I thought about it I came to a conclusion. It's okay to have two consenting adults but still find it creepy, it's your way of your thinking. I'm not trying to stop you or anyone else from having your own beliefs. Once again, sorry if I offended you Michael.

You didn’t offend me, it’s fine, your ask was fine. I just really don’t want to open up a debate about it. I’m sorry that I made you feel like you had done something wrong! You didn’t! Sharing your opinion is fine I just. Don’t want to host a debate about it, sorry.

I’m sorry but I’m not having an ‘is incest okay’ debate on my blog. Nope. Not happening. Nopes off into the distance.

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Anonymous asked: Hello; recently, a question occurred to me and I cant seem to figure out a plausible answer on my own and I thought maybe you could help me find an answer. It's related to gender/sex, especially trans gender community: I saw quite a few people argue that body parts are not gendered and that is perfectly fine but if they are not gendered why some of them trigger gender dysphoria to the point of requiring a medical surgery? (cont.)

(continued) From what Ive seen, people argue that sex change surgery (sorry if its the wrong term) is necessary but at the same time claim that being attracted to only to one set of genitals is transphobic because body parts are not gendered and it just doesnt seem to add up in my head. (I also dont see how being attracted to one set of genitals is transphobic since it doesnt exclude trans people, there are post-op and pre-op trans people after all). Can you maybe help me figure it all out?

There’s a lot of elements to this question, but I’d like to start by saying that I’m not really against people who are attracted to a certain kind of genitalia or whatever. I mean I don’t really get it, but yeah. The issue is when one assumes that a certain set of genitalia belongs to a certain gender or if you assume that all trans women, for example, have a penis. Like if someone isn’t into vaginas, that’s hurtful to me, yes, but I wouldn’t consider it to be transphobic to reject me based on that. I would however find it transphobic to reject all trans men based on that. Or at least that’s how I see it, I’m open to correction.

Body dysphoria is when something about your body feels wrong. For example, I couldn’t consolidate my chest with my self-image, no matter if I gendered my chest as male or not. The presence of something where there should have been an absence bothered me immensely. Not only that, but it caused significant social dysphoria due to the fact that my chest was, unless very carefully and occasionally painfully hidden, visible. My genitalia didn’t bother me nearly as much due to the fact that it’s not very visible (and therefore not a cause of social dysphoria) and for whatever reason, I found it much easier to consolidate with my self-image. Maybe the lack of something that should be present is easier to consolidate than the presence of something that should be absent for me, I don’t know.

I used to have some genital dysphoria but as I grew into my gender and accepted my body, I found that this lessened and I could stop packing (the fact that testosterone alters genitalia somewhat also helped). I’m not saying all people find this the same - my genital dysphoria was fairly low to begin with - this is just my own experience.

However, because I am a man, my body is that of a man’s. I would even argue that my chest was also that of a man’s - however, this wasn’t enough to alleviate body dysphoria and to consolidate my self-image.

It’s really difficult to explain, but I didn’t want to give a ‘it just is, that’s just how I felt/feel’ answer so.

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Anonymous asked: I was with my friend and some of her friends and we we're discussion fanfiction, and someone brought up incest and I said how I don't like it and it creeps me out. There was a woman who just flipped at me, saying that I shouldn't find it creepy and things like that. And while, if someone wants to have an incestuous relationship and they're two consenting adults, they can do so but it still creeps me out. Is that wrong?

I don’t think so. I find incest pretty creepy, too. And I think that parent/child incest has an inherent power dynamic and I find it rather deplorable.

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Anonymous asked: Well this might start some rants, so brace yourselves. On Ray's ask fm someone asked of how he felt about that girl who wrote that open letter of him being offensive. Ray said that he actually got a few open emails like that and also said people are entitled to their own opinion. He won't change just because some people don't like him. I love Ray. He's my favorite, so I don't really care. But to people who do....I'm sorry if your voice wasn't heard.

That’s a better response than I might expect from some people, at least. At least he acknowledges that people are entitled to their opinion.